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"What is a friend? A single soul, dwelling in two bodies" - Aristotle
True friendship is perhaps the only relation that survives the trials and
tribulations of time and remains unconditional. A unique blend of affection,
loyalty, love, respect, trust and loads of fun is perhaps what describes the
true meaning of friendship. Similar interests, mutual respect and strong
attachment with each other are what friends share between each other. These are
just the general traits of a friendship. To experience what is friendship, one
must have true friends, who are indeed rare treasure.
Friendship is a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. It is
when you do not have to weigh your thoughts and measure words, before keeping it
forth before your friend. It is when someone knows you better than yourself and
assures to be your side in every emotional crisis. It is when you can sleep
fighting and get another morning with a better understanding. Friendship is much
beyond roaming together and sharing good moments, it is when someone comes to
rescue you from the worst phase of life. Friendship is eternal.
Different people have different definitions of friendship. For some, it is the
trust in an individual that he / she won't hurt you. For others, it is
unconditional love. There are some who feel that friendship is companionship.
People form definitions based on the kind of experiences they have had. This is
one relation that has been nurtured since time immemorial. There are famous
stories about friends in mythologies of different religions all over the world.
They say a person who has found a faithful friend has found a priceless
treasure.
Psychologically speaking, friendship may be defined as 'a dynamic, mutual
relationship between two individuals. As children become friends, they negotiate
boundaries within which both partners function'. This helps them to function
like healthy individuals in life as they learn to draw a line as and when needed
in a relation. This greatly helps in the emotional development of an individual.
However, any relation needs constant nurturing and development from all the
people that are involved in one. Friendship cannot survive if one person makes
all the effort to sustain it without any mutual recognition from others.
Since friendship starts the moment a child starts socializing, the kind of
friends that the child chooses should be taken care of till the time he / she
learns to differentiate between right and wrong. Wrong peers or lack of
socializing can lead to severe psychological traumas and disorders, finally
leading to social maladjustment. The correct peer group is essential for the
development of the personality of a child. Both positive and negative
experiences refine the personality of the individual. Thus it is essential that
you find friends who are compatible with you on an emotional and psychological
basis.
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